Being married is one of life’s most challenging as well as rewarding relationships.  On one hand you have the unique privilege of meeting felt emotional needs of your spouse and on the other hand depending on your spouse to be the only one to meet certain emotional felt needs.  Without a proper understanding of your spouse’s ,God given, emotional felt needs you minimize your ability to make meaningful deposits into your spouse’s emotional banking account; leading to unmet felt needs as well as increasing stress and temperament weaknesses.

Couples who have an assessment to profile their unique temperaments enhance mutual understanding of each others felt needs, thus reducing misunderstandings and marital tensions.

One couple in particular, whose marriage was all but finished, visited our office seeking guidance.  Besides the one spouse’s feelings of depression and unfinished grief, there was animosity between them that led to their separation.  After several sessions, we uncovered the real issue!  A misunderstanding about giving and receiving affection created a disconnection in their ability to be intimate.

Identifying and explaining to each of them their unique likes and needs in the area of affection unlocked an understanding of their temperament needs, thus extinguishing the long standing misconception that had created a sense of mutual rejection in the relationship.  This couple’s experience with temperament therapy restored their relationship and armed them with clinical concepts that put their marriage on the fast track to greater levels of lasting intimacy.

In marriage, as well as many other areas of life, the problem often times isn’t the problem.  Temperament counseling empowers us to avoid simply working on outward symptoms allowing us to arrive at an understanding of actual core issues causing the problem.

I am Dr. T. James Kimble and 8 years ago my wife and I completed an APS temperament assessment.  The results transformed our marriage and Liz and I look forward to sharing a creation marital model equipping couples with a clinical experience that continues to provide marriages with a whole new level of relational intimacy.